We’ve all been there. The horse next to you in the yard has got all the new gear, they have more rosettes than you, another one is leaving the yard more often, another one’s horse is having 4 feeds a day rather than your horse who is only having one.
Someone is always doing something more fun, something more dangerous, something ‘cooler’ than you. And the comparison game sucks.
Why can’t I be like them? Why can’t my horse do that? I should up my horse’s feed intake. Maybe if I feed my horse hay rather haylage – that’ll be better… it is a black hole.
My advice to you = think about something else. When you are getting close to comparing yourself to something. Go for something else – what you’re having for supper, what you are doing next Wednesday, what are the characters in your favourite tv show doing… anything that will change your train of thought.
With practice, only 20 times of doing it, you will get out of the swing of comparing yourself to others, and actually enjoy what you’re doing.
There may be millions of reasons why they have to do whatever they’re doing. Maybe there was actually only one horse in the competition, so they had to get a rosette, maybe their horse is ill, so they have to be fed lots of times. Maybe they are unhappy with what they have to do to keep their horse happy. Maybe they wish they could be like you.
Remember, they do what they do best, and you do you best.
So, you do you and they will keep doing them.
Keeping it this way avoids the self deprecation at every turn. Quit the comparison game.