Mid fight or mid argument, my mother’s voice rings through my head… “Count to 10 before you say anything you’ll regret or hate later”
It never really worked, obviously, anything that my parents would tell me I would actively avoid being obedient to. For some reason, I cannot think why…
Frustratingly though, as I have been discovering more and more with growing up and remembering what my parents have taught me. There is some truth behind most of what they say.
Aged 10, they were spoil sports, who didn’t want to have any fun and claimed that most fights would end in tears and therefore, giving up before the tears would be the better way around. 10 years on, and I still like to stir up trouble, but I try and get out of it before tears appear… so it’s not my fault… obvs.
The parrot in my mind that repeats ‘count to 10 before you say anything you’ll regret or hate later’ until I give up and stop baiting people, is extremely true and relevant in today’s crazy, fast and electronically driven world.
That is approx the amount of time that it takes to send a comment of love or abuse, on Facebook. You type it and click ‘enter’. The deed is done.
Yes, of course, you can delete it, but you don’t know how many people refreshed at the point that you clicked ‘enter’. You don’t know how many people read it and didn’t read the humour or the joke behind it.
Some aren’t jokes, as with all things, but I would’ve said most of the rude things I put on Facebook/the internet are jokes. Banter. Made for laughs.
But it’s cold. It’s black and white. There’s no smile after it, no wink to say it’s a joke. No way of working out if that person joked or was serious.
I would like there to be a confirm thing, 10 seconds after you’ve written the message and pressed ‘enter’ that lets you, after 10 seconds confirm what you’ve written.
You would have the option to delete it or to edit it… maybe to be nicer. 10 seconds later, your mind would have reconsidered and put into perspective what you just read.
This could be the same with texts. Imagine how many friends you’d still have… or how many dates you’d still have because drunk texting wouldn’t work.
It only takes 10 seconds to change your mind.
It would be interesting to see how many trolls/horrid people there would be still on the internet. Maybe we would be able to work out who is horrid and who is just irate at the time of sending the message.
Anyways, if I was PM, this is what I would put forward.
Yours, counting to ten-ly,